Hope is in the Future and there is no hope, because the Future is now -
The only possibility is NOW, NOW...

The contest:

1.  This is the human road and the Possibility to go it All the Way!
2.  A very short version of the subject:
3.  Some thoughts about this Book, that you should know
4.  What is wrong with the Awakened ones?
5.  What is my role in this?
6.  Some words about my road
7.  What is there in my Book of books?
8.  Some word to those who are not Awakened and are still with us
9.  Me or Self
10. Suffering - the feeling of dissatisfaction toward the me - the ’outside’ observer of the thinking process
11. Development
12. The process of the development
13. Good and the relative good
14. The chain structure of the good feeling
15. ”Can the goodness or happiness develop ?”
16. The secret life of an unborn child
17. ”Today is tomorrow yesterday!”
18. The levels of comparison and me is born
19. The annual 3% growth of the gross national product and the agreement about the environment
20. The development of the fear
21. Thinking and the dichotomy of the thought (good vs. bad) and the relativity of the thought
22. To succeed or not to succeed in life and most of all in the computer games - the benefit of the games
23. ”How we can become as an Absolute Human Being according to the form!”
24. The studies of Abraham Maslow - The king of Real Creativity
25. David Bohm was telling about an old word of ’hale’
26. The thoughts in the Siegel’s book about the dichotomy
27. One interesting form of the dichotomy (good vs. bad) and the Final Goal
28. An Creative scientist, is it possible?
29. The relative difference of the people
30. Values, attitudes and norms
31. The brain studies of Penfield
32. How the transaction analysis gave me the first climbs of the sameness of the people
33. A short story about my life
34. A friend talked and said, that we should be humble
35. Why men rise from the trenches and start to run against the machine guns?
36. Now it is time to say few warning words
37. Tourism as an example of the human behavior and the ”A damned good trip!”
38. The scientists who were studying the Learning Organization were stopped with to ’the brick wall’
39. The Game of Life and the stories in the Bible
41. The book of Genesis and the real story about the ’falling into the sin’
42. An Heavenly Dream or was it at all a dream
43. What was the ’job’ of Jesus and how it was done
44. The Key to everything there is in the Perception of the Final Goal!
45. What kind of a person is the Childlike human being?
46. Not until Thomas explained the Light correctly
47. How does the Knowing Absolutely Oneself happens after the Awakening?
48. The Knowing Absolutely Thyself is the way to the Enlightenment
49. An animal called a human being
50. A story about the meeting of our forefather and the Neanderthal people - who used the necklace?
51. Truth that I already lost, but now it is ’flesh’ again!
52. A small steps on my road

 

1. This is the human road and the Possibility to go it All the Way!

Start with the ordinary life:
1. Collect the best values there are in your culture.
2. Start showing them around.
3. Stay alive.
4. Marry and Multiply.
5. Drink 8 glasses of water every day.
6. Think positively about yourself, because you will become, what you think.
7. Climb the stepladders to be better performer until you reach the final step incompetence.
Continue…
1. Suffer because of the conscious suffering, of the insufficiency.
2. Start looking for the solution.
3. Awaken
4. Start seeing all the things as they really are.
5. Start seeing yourself as you are and that your behavior is the same as the behavior of other persons.
7. Know Absolutely Yourself.
8. Enlightenment.
9. ?????

This book is especially for those persons who are Awakened and don’t know what happened. The only thing that is sure, Everything has changed and they think even that they are crazy. The Book of books give you the insight not to the other world, but to the ordinary world and how things are there. In short it tells you, what you are seeing and what you are going to see. The Book of books also tell to ordinary people, the people who have not Awakened accidentally or because they Jumped over the Border, what to expect. There are two operation systems in use. When a person is not Awakened, he is in the operation system of the thoughts. And when he is Awakened, he is in the Absolute Operation System and Everything has changed for good. There is no turning back.

I have gone through a road, from the unexplainable suffering - ”I am not enough for me!” - to the explaining the feeling of satisfaction. In a way I Perceive, that it is the job, that is given to me. I had to go through it All. But that was not the whole thing. I also sow how to explain it All. I use the capital letter only, when I am talking about a thing, that the thought cannot understand or explain. To me it means, that the word is from the Absolute Operation System.

It may be suitable to say few words in this place about these two operation systems. While living people are in the operation system of the thoughts. The thoughts and the thinking govern the life. The thinking process use the past conscious or unconscious memories and project them from present into the future. That process governs nearly all the human behavior. The operation system of the thoughts is limited. There will always be the border, that the thoughts cannot cross. The thoughts are also relational. Because of that there is always measuring and comparison. Something happens and a person measures the thing and compares it to the past memories. That way the only things the thought can do is to give birth to the millions and millions opposite pares of words - good vs. bad, fast vs. slow, and so on. Today’s better means, that the thing that was good yesterday in today bad. According to this phenomena, we are always looking for the better things. Nothing we get will never be enough to us. So we keep on looking for the better.

If the operation system of the thoughts is limited, then on the other side of it, there is something, from what the thought doesn’t know anything. There is the Absolute Operation System. Between these operation systems, there is the Border. You have to cross it, if you want to know the Secrets of Life and find the Life in life.

The problem, it seems to me, isn’t so much the crossing of the Border. It can happen accidentally or you can do it by wanting it. You never do it by your own strength. The main problem is, that when you do it, you are on a foreign ground. You are scared. Your thought thinks that you are crazy and that something bad has happened to you. So the main point in the Book of books is to tell you what you see and why you see it All like that. That is the reason of this Book.

So if you have grossed the Border, you start at once to Perceive, what I am talking about. I call the phenomena by the word of Anthony de Mello to Awakening. Later I use also other words. It is good for you to know that the Awakening is not the Final Goal. It is only a compulsory step you have to take. The next thing, that happens to you is that you start to see Everything. You start to complain, that things are wrong, because you see that the behavior of the people is wrong. This is the way it happens, until you except it as the right behavior if the human being is rationally irrational in all one’s behavior. The you start to see, that the behavior of All people is the same. The next step is to Know Absolutely Yourself. Even that isn’t the End. But to Perceive you have to Know Yourself or read more from the Book.

All the things, that you will meet in this Book, even when you are an Awakened one and thinking, none sense, nonsense of folly for the thoughts. So don’t count on the thoughts. Try to Perceive, Feel, what is right.

Let’s start the explaining of the Game of Life!

 

2. A very short version of the subject:

• The thoughts, the thinking and the words belong to the operation system of the thoughts.
• All the thoughts are me-thoughts, there is always ME within.
• Thinking is guiding all the deeds and so they are all me-deeds.
• If you accidentally do something and there is no me within, the deed is spontaneous. You do it without thinking. This kind of deeds are very seldom and that is way I can say that all the deeds always include me.
• When the deed is controlled by the operation system of the thought, they always include the relational good and bad.
• In the Absolute System there is not me within. Me or self is death. The person is living without me, when he is away, from the operation system of thoughts.
• There is no sensible way to get rid of the operation system of the thoughts and it is not even necessary.
• When a person Perceives, that there is something over the Border, the operation system of the thoughts looses it’s dominance.
• The only way you can become to a person who is without me is to Know Absolutely Yourself.
• The first step in that is to Awaken which means that you step out of the system of thoughts into the Absolute System or into the System where thinking is not leading the life.
• To Know Absolutely Yourself is not a goal in it self. It is the first step after Awakening that leads to other things.

About the Knowing Yourself:
- It is not a day to day process, where the goal is somewhere in the future!
- It is not a sense of self, if it means that one person has better sense of self than the other. So it doesn’t grow or develop.
- It happens in a flash, Now and it includes All. You know what is important and you know about it Absolutely All.

3. Some thoughts about this Book, that you should know

When I wrote this book, there was only one difficulty. And that was and still is, in what order I present the subjects. Certain things become logically before others. But then there are many subjects, that are not in any certain order. They come to a mind in a bundle.

When I started my journey, the main subject was to find satisfaction in my life. I think, that everybody in one’s life is searching the same thing. I am an only child. I have fought many ’battles’ with my wife, who is the first child in a family where there is 5 children. I am saying, that the only child is cannot be selfish, because the has never learned to be selfish. He has never shared things. He has never had anyone to blame. He has never learned to search for the guilty party. A child cannot see that the parents are guilty for something. The other person who he can blame has to be equal to him, a sister or a brother. So the only child leans to think, that he is to be blamed and he is guilty.

I think, it was a blessing for me. I had to find the satisfaction for me from my own life. I couldn’t blame others. At first I was not looking for the satisfaction. I took it the other way round. ”Why I am unsatisfied?” Later it turn into a question, ”Why I am not sufficient for myself?” When I would out the answer. It was very simple. That’s what this Book also is about. ”What makes a person feeling satisfaction?” If you know the answer, you Know it All!

In a way I thought already in very early stage, that the answer is somehow hidden in the words - ”Know thyself!”. I didn’t Perceive, what it meant, but my road headed into that direction. One thing that was certain on my road, was that it is damn hard to get to the Goal and especially to Know thyself. Now I ’know’, that it is the hardest thing there is in the human life, because the human being has to abandon one’s own basic security.

 

4. What is wrong with the Awakened ones?

I could simply ask, why doesn’t the Awakened one understand, but in doing so I would make on huge mistake. There is a small seed of the truth in the question. The Awakened one doesn’t understand. The thought cannot go over the Border. So nobody can understand, when the operation system of the thoughts is leading the way.

When a person goes over the Border and comes back to the system of thoughts, the thinking process starts to analyze to things. So when the thoughts cannot grasp the things, there is a problem for the person. He cannot ask the guidance. He is even afraid to talk about the things. So he is cooking in his own juices.

You start easily think, that you are simply crazy. Think about a silly dream. How impossible it is to tell about it? Crossing the Border gives you tales that are even harder to tell anybody, because there isn’t words to describe them. So you cannot tell  anybody. You don’t want to be labeled to an insane person. The same thing happens inside the person, who has had the experiences. Even he cannot grasp them. The thoughts judge the things insane, folly, nonsense, and so on.

If you are very lucky, you have beside you a person, who has experienced the same things, and he can lend you a hand and tell you, that everything is in order. You can only Feel or Percept those things that are over the Border. You cannot think about them or explain them. This is the safe way. You have a guru and you kind of trust in him.

Your thoughts begin to lose the dominating position. You begin to trust your feelings. You start to Perceive, that your feelings are correct even when you thoughts cannot understand.

So, what does it do to a person, when he goes over the Border or is Awakened? It gives a broader perspective in Seeing things. Now the things are no more one dimensional. The one dimensional means the things are relative - good or bad or better or worst. They stat to be together, good and bad together.

A person never goes over the Border with his own power even if the grossing is accidental. He doesn’t go over the Border by wanting to go. You have to ask help from the Higher Power. You have to throw yourself to the mercy of the Higher Power, God. A German author, Herman Hesse has been speaking about the ’Unconditional Jump’ over all reservations.

Imagine the following! It is like throwing yourself from the roof of a skyscraper into the hands of God. That is the psychology of the Jump. You experience the physical death to find the Life behind the life. It can also be said that you jump into the Awakening. And as you can see, the demand is a big one for Absolutely Knowing Yourself. It is the key to the Awakening. Be aware, that the throwing yourself from the roof of a skyscraper is not the real thing, it is only a mental picture!

You see now that the thoughts cannot grasp the Jump. The thoughts want to be in control. The most frightening thing for the thoughts is to lose the control. In death the thoughts loose the control. And the thoughts don’t know a thing about the death. It is beyond the thinking process.

The thoughts don’t know a thing about the Higher Force or about the God. For the thoughts they are nonsense or none sense, the non-thinkable things. May be all the things that are none sense to the thoughts belong to the same System, to the System on Non-Thinking or to the Absolute System.

Let’s go farther! Where does the Jump into the Awakening leads? All the material is kind of unthinkable. You have to feel the things. First thing on the other side is Seeing. You starts to See thing as they are. Not as you think they are or as all the people think they are. I think that you see All the things by Awakening, but as a practice the thing come in to your mind one at a time. So to the person everything is been Told in the Jump or just after it. It is not a concern of a human being. That is the only way I can explain it. At first the Seeing makes a person as a fault picker. The start to blame other people.

The person sees more and more. Few things in a month then in a week then in a day and finally few things in an hour. Everything is changing. He sees like first time in his life how the things really are. And he is not happy.

So to the person Absolutely All is been told, but he doesn’t Know it All at once. The thoughts are still leading the way. And the thoughts are telling, what is and what isn’t. It is kind of mixed up period. The person cannot understand, how it could be possible to Know Absolutely All at once. So he has to be wrong or crazy. I later tell you how it is possible. The person cannot Perceive it until he Knows Absolutely Himself. And that doesn’t happen until awhile after the Jump. It can also be so, that the person never Perceive it.

So after awhile the person stop’s picking on things and he start’s to Perceive that things are just as they should be or he Perceives that the things couldn’t be otherwise. The Seeing becomes Pure. And he start also to see himself as he is. Not good or bad, but as he is.

Then after awhile the person also Perceives, that other people are as he is. There is only some minor differences. And after that perception he finally Perceives, that the sameness include only the behavior of people. People behave the same way. And as the behavior is reflected into everything around the human being, he finally Perceives, that he Knows Absolutely All. This is true, even if he doesn’t Perceive, how it is possible.

What is the most important thing in human behavior? It is the self- or me-concept of the person. I am using the simple word Me, when I am talking about the self or the conscious or unconscious concept of the person of himself. The people are also talking about ego, but I use the word Me, because I use it in a little bit different way. You understand, when you read farther. The concept Me is an Absolute word.

So all the behavior of human beings is from the deepest and from the most important part the same. There is no major differences in people or more exactly in the behavior of people.

You can perhaps now understand, what I meant, when I said, that Knowing one person, the me of the person, the person Know’s Absolutely All the persons. The main point is then - ”Know Thyself!” That is the key element after the Jump and after you started to See.

The biggest thing in human life is to Know Absolutely Himself. It is the trigger to everything else. It is the core thing in all Universal, Absolute Religions and Philosophies! Wait and see!

What I just said about the religions, means that the Life is a higher than religion. The Universal religions serve Life. With the word Life I mean, that it is possible to find Life when the person is alive. So ordinary life is not very high in my ladders. The purpose of life is to find Life in life. And the Universal Religions serve this purpose.

I can say now that the main thing in life is to go from the operation system of the thoughts into the Absolute Operation System, the System of None Thinking or the System of Perception. And that leads to Knowing Absolutely Oneself. It doesn’t stop there. I don’t know for sure, but I think that the next step is the Play of Power or the Play of Light or the Enlightenment. I have no better words. You have the Power and in another words you have the Light. The Energy has very much to do all this things, but I have no Energy or the Power. So I cannot tell you much about it. But I borrow something so I can tell you later more about the Power and the Light in my Book.

I give you some explanations: To me there is only Absolute Goodness. There is no Absolute Badness or Bad Forces or Power. It is kind of wrong to speak about Goodness because it brings easily the opposite with it. So I could speak about the Absolute Harmony in the place of Absolute Goodness, but I like to use the last version. I try to explain the thing with an simple example.

Take a positive number and let it grow. When you reach the biggest positive number it would be over the Border of the thoughts and it would be positive infinity, + ∞. Take the opposite direction and one negative number. Let it grow. You go farther and farther away to the opposite direction. What you get? Do you get negative infinity, - ∞? Is it totally different from the + ∞? No, you get the same! The Infinity is the Infinity. The Infinity is the same. You only have to go far enough and across the Border. There is only one Absolute or one Absolute Harmony or Goodness or Force or Power or Light. All the bad things in the human life comes from relative thinking. And the thinking dies when you cross the Border.

All this explanation for the thought are none sense, non-sense or folly for the human thought.

 

5. What is my role in this?

Usually the role of a ’guide’ or a guru stops before the Border. The crossing is an individual job. We don’t cross the Border hand in hand. Everybody does it alone. No church or parish does it together. No teacher can reach the Final Goal for his pupils.

That is the reason why most of the books, that are speaking about the Final Goal, stop before the Border. I once thought, that Krishnamurti was wrong. But he like nearly all the ’guides’ give you all the material, but you have to find the Final Answer by yourself. They say: ”I take you to the Border and you have to go the last steps alone.

I can understand or Perceive my role to be a little bit different. First I have been given a job to do. I have been told, that to me Everything has been told. Now I Perceive, what it means. And I can explain it All. My job is to explain it All. What is in the other side of the Border, that is hard to explain or it cannot be explained. The other gurus do just that. I thought once, that I can explain also It, but then I sow, that even I stop before the Border. But what I try to accomplice, is to tell you what kind of scenarios you have from behind the Border. That means, that I try to explain all the things that belong to the operation system of the thoughts.

A story: I saw a film in television. It was about the rats and the sparrows. The rats learned a trick in one part of the world and after awhile the rats in the rest of the world could do the same trick. As you can understand, there was no concrete connections between the rats. In Britain the milk was delivered in bottles and the bottles were left outside the front door. The sparrows learned to open the thin cover and drink the cream from the top part of the bottle. This happened before the second word war.

The story continues:… The same thing was found in Holland before the second world war. The birds were both in Britain and in Holland very stationary. They didn’t fly far from they place there were nesting. During the wartime the delivery of milk stopped. All the original sparrows, that could open the bottle, were death, when the delivery started after the war. And soon the sparrows were in Holland again drinking the cream. How the knowledge spread?

The story continues… Scientist’s started to think about the phenomena. In some daily paper in Britain there is a hard word puzzle. It was a common knowledge, that it was harder to solve the puzzle in the morning than in the evening. So the scientist’s catered two separate groups of people. They we a distance apart. The groups we alike. Both groups used a puzzle, that was not published in the paper. One group solved the puzzle in the morning and the other in the evening. The evening group solved the puzzle quicker and there was also more those who solved it in the evening group.

The only possible explanation was that the ’knowledge’ was spreading ’though the air’. The knowledge is like a force and it spreads in no material form.

What it has to do with the Final Goal or with the Absolute Knowing Oneself? Nothing much, but it gives me some Perceptions about the things we are doing today and how many people are jumping over the Border. The Awakening is spreading. Now is the time!

One interesting spice into the soup comes from the book of Urantia. There is said that there are three kind of fights in the human history: first the fight of survival, then the fight of well being and finally the fight of the ’new thinking’. Nowadays all of those fights are being fought even at the same time. Not the same people although are fighting all those battles necessarily in his life. The development goes smoothly until the fight of ’new thinking’. Then you have to jump into a new System from the operation system of the thought.

I talk a little bit later about the ’new thinking’. Then it is not a question of the new kind of thinking, but Jumping from the system of the thoughts to a new Absolute System, where the thinking has lost it dominance.

So let the Light of Folly or none sense shine!

 

6. Some words about my road

The first thing on my Road was some sort of suffering. I asked: ”Why I am insufficient to myself; why am I unsatisfied, when I had reached to so many things. At that time I had come from the university and had started to teach at the school of commerce tourism and the other commercial subjects. Especially when I started to teach the marketing psychology I had to read anything I got into my hands about the human behavior, philosophy and so on. I started also to meditate. It was like a joke. Nothing serious. I was sailing and meditating. Skiing and meditating. After a certain distance my mind was empty. One part of me was watching my thoughts. And as said the thoughts were like a wild donkey, jumping from a subject to another.

Buddha has said, that ”also happiness is suffering”. That is true, because I am happy only for awhile and then comes the dominating suffering. I am then away from the happiness I know. It is said, that most of the people, most of the time are in a ’silent suffering’ (Thoreau). That is like a ghost pain, that you can take away by hitting with a hammer to you knee. Then you like it good. You enjoy the life, when your own silent suffering has gone. 

Before my first larger work in 1985, there was a moment of hesitation. I was not ready. Something was missing. It was the concept of development. One day at once I Perceived, what the development was and it was like a key. It opened the Door.

At first the Perception was simple: ”The development doesn’t lead in the Goal!” Later it the Perception changed into it’s final form: ”A person hopes today, that it would be better for him tomorrow. Now it is tomorrow and the same person is also now keep on hoping, that it would be better the next day and so on until he dies.” The only thing that the development does is the movement to better and better. I Perceived, that it couldn’t be a good thing.

So the reason for development is that a person is hoping. And first of all the person is unhappy, dissatisfied. The development can be directed to three thing in larger categories: to money, to skills or to knowledge. And there is never enough of them. So the development or hoping doesn’t do any good in reaching the Goal. I thought, that the Final Goal had to be Enough. And the movement stops there.

The main point in development as in the life a human being in general is better, more. A human being wants more enjoyment and at the same time wants not to be afraid. These are the other sides of the same coin. The enjoyment comes always from a thing that is considered to be good. The good is always relative, because the thinking process of a human being cannot grasp the Absolute Goodness. To be afraid destroys the place where a person could be happy. So it is a bad thing. Also it is destroying the enjoyment.

So the living of a human being is in the circle of insufficiency. A human being never find’s the Sufficiency with this method. What comes to help? A human being usually never doubts the movement or the circle. So the human being never doubts the system. He only doubts about his own goodness in the work, in the system. So the theme of life of all human beings (who are not Awakened) is: ”I am already good, but I want to be better!” of ”I have already much, but I want more!”

For an ordinary person development is a good thing. It is the way a person can become better and have more, what is the same thing. A person who is developing himself is considered to be better than a person who is collecting more money and wealth. I don’t know a person, who is considering the development of oneself bad, except I myself. Or to be exact, I don’t consider it bad. I consider it useless if the Goal is Total Sufficiency, that stops the movement or the development.

We usually talk more and better, when we talk about development. But we could use the word development also when we are talking about the development of fear. So we have also in this respect the opposites. The goods and things are good, they bring us the good feeling when we use them or consume them and the fear is bad. because it prevents the enjoyment. The history of human beings is usually the history of the development. How we did the things then and what was the result. But we could at the same time speak of the development of fear. What we were afraid in certain times in history. Today the most developed persons are afraid of not being good enough for themselves.

Our relative thinking always use the memories of the past. The memories are always the results of past measurements and comparisons. How do you know that a certain car is a good car? You have in your memory a collection of criterions (speed, safety, color, model and so on) and if they are met, the car is good. All the criterions have been measured in the past and now you are making comparison with them. The result is the good car.

Easiest way to see the limitations of the thought, is to take into consideration the following questions. ”What is good and bad at the same?” You answer is, that the question is nonsense. And you answer is right, because the question is for the outside the capabilities of the thought.

You can answer only those questions, where you can use the measurement and the comparison. There has to be always the two opposite pares of words: good vs. bad, hard-working  vs. lazy, beautiful vs. ugly, true vs. false and so on.

Well, I started already to explain the main subjects, but I stop now and only say, that the concept of development was very important. I couldn’t move ahead until I Perceived it. Let’s go farther and let’s start it all over again.

A word of warning: If you experience or have experienced the Awakening, there is no turning back! So if you are afraid, stop here!

 

7. What is there in my Book of books?

In short the main thing in my Book of books is to Know Absolutely Yourself. Before that is the Awakening. With that you Jump over the Border. Because some of you want it short, I tell you just that. The whole thing first with one word:

- With one word: NOW!

Means: That when you live Now; Now, Now… (knock the table with your knuckles!) you are There! It is the home of Absolute.

- With two words: ”Know Thyself!”

Means: You have Awakened. You see yourself as you are and also the others as they are. You Perceive, that the behavior of all people is the same. People are the same. And eventually you Know Absolutely Yourself.

- With three words: Attention, Attention, Attention...!

Means: You are living Now and See it All. Your me is not mixed up to your Observations. Your me is dead.

- With on sentence: ”Look at the mirror and See yourself as the mirror sees you, without thinking that you are good or bad.”

Means: The same thing than in the former explanation. You just See without judgments of your me.

Because I think that those words doesn’t mean a thing to you I tell it All in the later parts of my Book.

So to Know Absolutely Yourself means, that you are living in the place called Now. Or more precisely, when you have visited that Place Now, your view changes. Your thoughts are not anymore leading your life. Your me is dead. That means, that you See all the things that are in your surrounding as they are. And most of all you See yourself as it is. That leads to Perception, that the behavior of All the people is the same. There is no difference between you and me. They are the same. You Perceive, that to Know it All, it is enough, because with All the things in you and in your surrounding are linked to human behavior and your me, self.

When you find the Place Now, you are in Heaven while living. You find the Main Goal of all the Universal Religion. You find the Life in life. Your me or self is dead. Your are Worthless, a None Sense or Folly person. That is the only way to tell have you made it, is to look up your personality and has it changed. Are you now a Childlike person? You are Absolutely Creative.

 

8. Some word to those who are not Awakened and are still with us

The ordinary people are kind of blind ones. They see things through the dimmed lenses, through their thoughts. When a person is Awakened, he start to see the things as they really are, as the person have never before seen them.

 

9. Me or Self

Me or self belong to the things, that you find or can Perceive only after you have crossed the Border. Take my word for it! I Perceived it not until year 2002. A friend of mine had a total burn-out. After that he had a feeling, that he was worthless. He was nothing. What had lost it’s value? It had to be his me. Other thing with the total burn-out is, that no one seems to know nothing about it or how to cure it. So let’s think for the time being, that no one understand the me or self.

I take an other example of the hardness to understand, what the me of a person is. C. Argyris was studying the Learning Organization and he stumbled into a thing, that he couldn’t pass by. He had to try to explain it. He was asking the leaders of organizations to pick up 10 things that the director must not do. He got the answers easily. Then when the people of Argyris went to see the firms, they discovered that in practice they were following the 10 things as they would belong in to the 10 best thing to do in business.

C. Argyris was stunned. There was something very wrong. The director said that they are not doing the 10 things. So they should have behaved accordingly. But they did the opposite. There was simple difference between the talks and the practise.

The same thing was true in all the organizations in all over the world. C. Argyris named the phenomenon to ’the theory-in-use’. Later he said also, that it is ’the defense system’ of the people.

He said that between two books, he was looking for answers from the books of behavioral science, but he found nothing. The behavioral science had not stumbled into that matter. 

C. Argyris didn’t explain, what in the organizations make the people behave the same way.  Perhaps it wasn’t a big thing and he start to use in later parts of his book the plural form of the terms, when he was talking about this kind of behavior of the people in the organizations It is the normal thing to do. People are different.

In my mind the original terms were the right ones. People behave the same way. The behavior of the people was the same in certain situations and because of certain reasons. And the same thing happens also to the people outside the organization. The organization is only one of the surroundings the people live.

The people are likely even to denies their behavior or they think that they are not behaving that way. That is ’the defense system’. The system is the same for all the people in the organizations and outside them. So all the people are behaving the same way and there is only one defense system for all the people. And me or self is the main part in this play.

This is ’the defense system’ or ’the theory-in-use’: When a person meets unconsciously a thing that is threatening the me of the same person, he starts unconsciously ’the defense system of the me’. The action goes over everything else. The person forget to the goals of the organization and starts to
a. defend himself,
b. blame others,
c. stepping nicely or many other things that show that he is really working hard while he is not doing anything effective.

All these actions are eating away the efficiency of the work. It is the waist of the time. There is no way to stop it and control it, when the action is not conscious.

So the main thing in ’the defense system’ is, that the people don’t understand how the me of them is working and directing their life. The people don’t Perceive their me! And the only reason I can think about is, that the me can be explained only if you go over the Border.

The only real way to know the me is to go over the Border and start Knowing Oneself. At the same time you start to See why the learning organization is still a dream.

When a person is born, he has no me. The me is born during the first year. Everybody has the me, when the person is about one year old. After that the me of the person is leading the life of the person. Most of the people die while the me is still alive. But if the person wants to solve the Game of Life and reach the Final Goal, he has to Know Absolutely Oneself. Then the me of the person is dead.

At first I thought, that the me of a person is a collection of past deposits into the memory. There are the values the person possesses and which he can show to others in his behavior There the immaterial part of the education, the work, the status, the wealth and so on. They answer the question, what I am, who good I am, what’s my value among other people.

If this is true, there is a lot of material. If one goes away, is degenerated the other take it’s place. The total destruction is possible only if all of them are destroyed and it is nearly impossible.

The new thought came, when a friend of mine had the total burn-out. He had saved money. He was a wealthy man. He did loose the work, the family, the wife and his home also his health, but he had most of his money and wealth left. How on earth his me was dead? He lost the value of me. Me was worthless.

How is it possible? The only explanation is, that the me of a person is a temporary thing. You have to take care it everyday. I doesn’t last long, if you don’t perform a good performance after another. What makes human being worthy for himself? How many medals have people get by only being, being good? Not one medal! You have to perform something, that the other people are considering valuable, and from that you get value also for you me. So if you loose your capability to perform, you loose the value of your me. You are the judge. Other have very little to do with it.

I make you a picture. Let’s talk about the different thing, where a human being, can get values for himself. Work is one stack. An other performance is an other stack. On the top of the stack is the latest work. It is giving the value for the me. I’m valuable because of that. You could think, that if you loose the point from the top of the stack, you could not feel empty, because there are the past point in the stack. And you could use it to be something, not as good as you were, but still good. If you loose whole stack there would be other stack to build you value.

But I think it is not so! It seems to be, that all the imaginary stack accumulate into one, the me that is at present time. And past point of the stack don’t exist anymore. So it you loose the only thing you have, the me, you loose everything.

So me is a subjective picture of a person about what he is right now. As you can imagine, it is not a matter of Absolute Operation System. But when you loose the me, it can only be explained with the insight that you get, when you are over the Border.

Last words: The me of a person is a conscious or unconscious mental summary of all things there are just now in the life of a person and it influences the behavior of the person. It is in the core of all the behavior I dictates all the behavior Because of the unconscious nature of the me, we have to go over the Border to Perceive, what is happening and why it is happening.

 

10. Suffering - the feeling of dissatisfaction toward the me - the ’outside’ observer of the thinking process

The first thing on the human road, that can lead into the Change, is the suffering. You have to suffer!

Ok, I suffered enough and started the search. First it was kind of two way street. At the same time I collected the material to teach and to understand my subjects, the tourism. The second reason was to understand myself. Why I was behaving the way I did.

Suffering is very interesting subject. The first ’green’, Thoreau said in his book, that the people are suffering from the ’silent desperation’. To me that means, that all the people are suffering. That is the main feeling in life. It is the undercurrent of life. The modern psychology is speaking, that all the people are searching for happiness or pleasure and at the same time want the fear to go away. As I said earlier good and bad, pleasure and fear are on the same axis. So it is easy to say, that at the same time when the people are running after the pleasure they are running away the fear. Which of these is a fact or the everyday’s reality?

In the first part of the transaction analysis it is said, that over 90% of the people has this life attitude - ”I am not OK! - You are OK!” Imaging what is the main feeling inside the people! Are they happy? Are they satisfied? You can easily see, that that kind of a person is likely to choose for the motto of his life: ”I am already good, but I want to be better!” As you see, it is much nicer to say that way, the positive way, than with the correct way: ”I am unsatisfied. I want more money and/or knowledge and/or skills!”

When the person suffers, he is likely to want more of things he is used to feel good with. Those goods and things he want, come from the heritage of the person, from the values of the society or of the culture. The more the person have those things and goods, the better he feels he is at least for awhile. So the people like think, that they are good and running after goods and things, than think or say, that they are running away some bad thing.

In the next chapter I look a little bit closer into the word development. It has all to do with the running after the good things, if a person is not enough for himself. As I keep on saying, it’s not a bad thing to do so. The person who's life is led by the operation system of the thoughts is forced to do so. It is the must. And everybody does so.

The BOOK of the books Part 2.